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Sparks Between Us: From Friends to Lovers, Or Friends Yet Again?

October 22, 2021 at 10:00 pm - 1:00 am SMT

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When was the last time you felt ‘in limbo’ with someone that is more than a friend, maybe a lover, but never forever? How do you know if someone is more than just a friend?

How would you define the milestones that mark the progression from friend to a lover? Is it a fluid connection that can be transitioned smoothly, without explicit negotiation of boundaries? How far will you go when you are infatuated?

“Intimacy is getting to know your fear & desires, everything outside it is small talk.” — An InterIntellect member and a lover

In this salon, we’ll explore the gray area between friends and lovers, explore the ‘signposts’ that determine who is a friend or a lover, discuss the lifespan of romantic relationships, and debate over the number of romantic relationships we can possibly have in one lifetime. 

We’ll also discuss how our personal attachment styles may affect the ways in which we relate with one another.

Then, we’ll look at some images with varying levels of intimacy together and discuss what we perceive, perhaps even share personal stories!

This is a 18+ and wine-friendly salon. 

About Sparks Between Us

This new track of monthly Interintellect Salons by two secret ii hosts explores the varying levels of intimacy in sex and relationships.

Save the date: this track of ii Salons will run on the fourth Friday of every month. Step into the ii comfort inn for a cathartic conversation in vulnerability, intimacy, and sexuality.

Salon series note: Bear in mind that this salon starts an hour earlier than our previous Comfort Inn salons.

Bring with you your senses, courage, and an open mind. Homophobia, sexism, racism will not be tolerated in our discussions. 

This salon is an ongoing series for connection-curious individuals on the fourth Friday of each month. Enter into a suspended ‘comfort inn’ to ask your burning questions in sex & relationships: We’ll explore ‘dark sides’, sexual chemistry, monogamy & polyamory, kink & shame, the ‘fleeting lover concept’, and more.


Whatever we share in the Comfort Inn is private and sacred. Zoom screenshots will be obscured and chat logs anonymised before documentation.

Reading List

Unsent Love Letters – Fantasy and Unrequited Love

How Erotic Thinking Helps Emotional Connection

Why, Once You Understand Love, You Could Love Anyone

Why Polyamory Probably Won’t Work for You

The Attachment Style Questionnaire



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October 22, 2021
10:00 pm - 1:00 am SMT
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